Are you feeling stressed out about your situation?
Does it seem like nothing isuncer your control?
Does it feel hopeless and like you should just give up?
First of all, “giving up” is generally NOT an option. This is because most states (maybe all of them) will NOT let you “give up” on your child support responsibilities. So you will be paying for something you can’t have. Namely, your children.
In addition, “giving up” on trying to visit the children just gives her and her lawyer one more arrow to shoot at you in court: “he doesn’t even care enough about his children to visit them!” Now, this is a total lie. Most fathers who “give up” do it because the hassle and stress of trying to arrange parenting time and actually get the kids is so terrific and so painful. But the judge won’t see that. The judge’s opinion is that you should suffer any hassle, endure any indignation, do whatever is necessary to see your children. In other words: “Mom, do whatever you can to make it as difficult as possible for the visitation to occur, because I – the judge – am going to put the burden and blame on DAD, not you.”
Here are 3 resources that might help you:
1. Father’s Rights Library: 3 volumes to help you develop a focused strategy for discovery, litigation, and custody fights.
2. STRESS JUDO Black Belt stress management training: This unique and exclusive training for managing stress takes you through 6 belt levels to take control of the stress in your life.
3. STRESS JUDO: The Mastery Manual: The reference manual for the Black Belt training program. Available through this link at a special 25% off price.
Let us know if these resaources help you. And let us know what YOU use to handle the stress of the family law litigation process.